Affairs of the Heart

It was just a chat. She was a married woman, an old friend. Surely no harm could come out of a few conversations. If  we kept the conversation respectful and I respected her as a married person it would be okay. Or so I thought.

Things changed the time we had this one heart to heart conversation. It was an intimate and sincere conversation at the end of which we both found out we had had a crush on each other back in secondary school even though none of us had done anything about it back then. Knowing someone felt or feels that way about you moves you in some way from one place to another.

Friends with Benefits

Most of you are foolish, you do not see beyond today. The rest of you lack understanding, you just don’t get it. When you marry someone you don’t marry them so that you can have a ‘happy ever after’ lifelong romance. You marry to have a lifelong companion, someone to share your life with basi.

What we are looking for when we say we want a marriage partner in all actual sense is that friend who will be with us for the rest of our lives, sharing our highs and our lows. We are asking for company and friendship but on a long-term basis.

Working for the Devil

The places we work at affect us differently. Whereas in other places we may blossom and flourish, in other places we shrivel , our spirit weakens and our soul hovers to death point. Why such a big difference?

If the place you work at stresses you out, makes you cry, frustrates you and basically gives you no peace of mind then you will be worried most of the time. As a consequence your spiritual life will be affected, your prayers will no longer seem to be effective, you will no longer desire to be in the presence of God. Slowly you drift from the path of righteousness God showed you. Before you know it you will lose your soul as you drift from God and into the arms of the devil and his wicked demons.

Fret no more!

And the Spirit of my Lord answered me: “Why do you misrepresent me before my children?”, He asked of me. “Why do you call me unjust, unfair and unrighteous? Why do you present me as unholy?”

“Man is not even the greatest of my creations (Job 40:15-19) yet I can approach the greatest among my creations with a sword and can do with it as I please. Why then do you resist me and give me limits and boundaries as to what I can or cannot do with your life? Does not everything under heaven belong to me, to do with as I please?”

People Like Me

If you knew the number of problems that I had and for a day were unlucky enough to see life through my eyes you would agree with me that perhaps it’s best that I die and find peace. I have no peace: my medical report would shock you, romantically I have no love life plus I am stuck in a dead-end job. And that’s only half of it: my heart and soul is tormented, my brain overworked, my spirit snuffed out.

They told me to work hard and I would have a good life so naturally I feel unfairly treated by life. I did nothing to violate my health, I excelled in my studies and when it comes to relationships I tried to love with all my heart. But it seems the fruit of all that I worked hard for is rotten in my hand. The beauty that was meant to be realised from such hard effort is not apparent.

The Hypocrite’s Oath

Isn’t it funny how women claim to be the most wronged in a relationship? Women complain and complain, point fingers and carry on. And even though a man might be having problems you only hear him complain when the issue is very very bad? By their actions and conduct though all men and women say the Hypocrite’s oath: I swear I am right and that one is not.

I remember a girl who claimed her boyfriend treated her unkindly. He didn’t listen to her, was a drunkard and just didn’t behave the way she wanted him to. In short she claimed he caused her nothing but great grief.

So you know what you're doing after all...

I have yet proven again that my God is no fool. I visited Patricia Kaliati and she gave me no job. Then I went to Bright Malopa and he gave me no job. I begged for work from top management, middle men and bottom men and still no one had compassion on me enough to give me a job.

But my God knew all along what he was doing. For he knew any favours or help I would gain from these men would not last. For he was about to change the way things were done. He was about to change the leadership, turn the country upside down and change those who benefitted from the fruit of the land with those who had grown skinny and had not been considered.

Too much of Nothing

What is the purpose of all life, the Spirit of the Lord asked me. To understand the purpose or your life you must firstly understand the purpose of all nature you see, He said. Does man live only to expire, is he at all any better than a monkey, a dog or a snake? For all were created by one God, what’s to say they all were not created for the same purpose? As an ant is so is a man? Same value?

I Want your Girlfriend...

They say I can’t have a girlfriend unless I steal someone else’s. “You will never find a girl who is single, all girls are taken”’ that’s what they say. I admit what people say when they say this makes a great deal of sense. I mean 80% of the women I meet are taken and the remaining 20% are either crazy, have issues or are just not interested. So if I really want to be with someone am sorry but I will have to take your girlfriend.

Call me dumb or slow but I just feel bad about stealing someone’s girlfriend from them intentionally. I mean doesn’t he have the right to love his girlfriend without having someone like me interfere with is relationship? And what if she is everything he has in this crazy messed up world, the only thing giving him joy, peace and keeping him going in a world full of broken dreams, pain, hurt and frustrations?

Imagine Me

Imagine a guy who falls in love with his dream girl. He courts the said lady, does everything right and convinces her to marry him. The marriage takes place, a very wonderful affair that is full of great memories, family and friends, the best thing that ever happened to him.

Case No. 143: Traditional Medicine Vs The Church

Traditional healers are frowned upon by the church yet the word of God clearly states that it is acceptable for Gods people to use traditional medicine. I bet you didn't know that.

It is written: “Fruit trees of all kinds will grow on both banks of the river. Their leaves will not wither, nor will their fruit fail. Every month they will bear, because the water from the sanctuary flows to them. Their fruit will serve for food and their leaves for healing (Ezekiel 47:12)." This was a message from the Angel of God to Ezekiel a prophet concerning the future of the Israelites and how they were to conduct themselves when they returned from exile in Babylon.

The Wretched of Men

They said there was a God out there. That I could call unto him and he would answer my prayer. They said he was faithful, he would never leave me nor forsake me, he would be there when I needed him the most and even when I did not feel I needed him. But you are not there are you Lord?

You said in your word if I prayed with all my heart in righteousness and faith you would hear and come to my aid. So I prayed one way and then another and you are still nowhere to be seen. I have prayed with all my heart, and prayed with all my soul then prayed with all my spirit. But my prayers fall on deaf ears, the one who calls himself my God shows his back to me and not his face.

To my Proud Homosexuals

I think it is very funny when a human being will do all sorts of things to change the natural way of things but by it still end up proving that God was right all along. Gay men and lesbian women say they do not approve of being in a relationship with a sex different from theirs, but their actions prove they are liars.

Firstly, look at a gay couple. In such a relationship you will find one of the two will acquire the mannerisms of a female. The weaker of the two will wear make-up, female clothes and apparel. He will acquire female mannerisms and habits such as female tone of voice, way of laughing, body language and movement. This will be vice versa in a lesbian couple. One girl will don a tougher attitude and will be more domineering than the other, initiating things in the relationship as a male would.

I Say it because I Love You

I saw a man die in my arms today. He was my grandfather. What started as mild discomfort because of rapid heart palpitations turned into one big seizure. I saw the extremely rapid heartbeats and placed my hand over his chest to cool it down. Then I saw the seizure come, slowly it started with a groan until finally it shook his whole body and made him wince with pain.

I called for the houseboy to bring me a towel to cool him down but no one responded. I called to my grandmother who was peacefully sleeping close by but she didn’t wake up to assist me. Till there was nothing left and he was gone.

How you know she truly loves you

I am now just boyfriend material. A year from now I will be 25 and at that point I will become marriage material for I will then be considered eligible to marry by women from that age onwards and below. The next five years of my life (from 25 to 30) should then be very interesting.

They will be interesting in that I will have a wider range of women to choose from. I will have the usual desperate women trying to get me to marry them, plus teenagers, women in their early 20’s and even in their 30’s. I can pick the finest of women in beauty and fashion, or I can pick the worst of whores just for kicks, my choice entirely.

The Eternal Bachelor

Marriage is no bed of roses. Your hopes are crushed, your dreams sacrificed, freedoms limited, way of life changed. You are constantly facing one problem after another, if it’s not your partner having mood swings it’s your kids crying all night and keeping you awake.

Then you have to factor in that the person you marry changes over time. They do not stay the same person you were attracted to, they change for better or worse emotionally and physically as your circumstances and lifestyle changes. Such changes do little to help the married couple.

When Women Marry

20% of women get married because of circumstance.30% of them will marry because they want to. The remaining 50% however get married in-order to escape some difficult emotional, psychological or financial situation that they are in.

The 20% that marry because of circumstance are those women who find themselves in marriage because of pregnancy or some such happenstance. For these there isn’t much to do but to make their situation the best it can be. It just happened after all, there is nothing else that can be done to reverse it without creating even more damage to their lives. Some live out their marriages happily and some don’t, it’s just the way it is and its best to accept it.

Men and Women Relationships

The relationship between men and women is a funny thing. It can only be described as a cycle that will see no end and will always lead to disaster should men and women continue to relate to each other the way they do now.

The problem starts when you consider the fact that no man will accept a woman 100% as she is and vice versa. This is mostly because when a man and a woman meet for the first time they each already have preconceived ideas of the kind of man or woman they want to date. So knowing that they like this about their partner but not that they expect the other person to also think like they do, to like other parts of them but not others.

A Sex Idol

The power of sex is undeniable all over the world. It will make a preacher, the holiest of men, lay down his faith and religious beliefs just so he too can have some. It will make a very faithful husband forget  his marriage vows to his wife and lay down with a prostitute. It opens up wallets causing people to buy houses and cars and spend lots of money on women and men so they can have something that was otherwise made to be free of charge.

Even I cant shake its power over me and I consider myself a reasonably holy man and even better a servant of God .I am enticed by sex and have fallen short , my feet are quick to run to it yet I read my bible and promise to obey the lord my God almost every day. Yes it is quite a marvelous thing to share that experience with a living breathing human being.

Dear Mahope

Dear Mahope,

There is a picture of you on Facebook that I really really like. In that picture I see a girl with not only a gorgeous smile but also a pure heart that is free from evil. I look at that picture and wish for many many things:

You should not have married me!

Men, your women have a case. They have accusations against you that you must answer. What will you answer these women my fellow men? For when I heard what the women said even I could not answer for you! This you must answer for yourself.

This then is what the women are saying: “Out of love did we marry you, for better or worse did we promise to be with you. Out of our love for you we have accepted you the way you are. We have tried to be good wives and have not criticized or been nuisances for nothing. We give up our wishes, time and plans to cook, clean and make your house a home.”

If all Women listened

By himself a man is relatively okay. In the presence of a woman, however, a man is an extremely evil being. The male vendors who started undressing women in Lilongwe were doing quite fine that day until one unfortunate woman crossed their paths and made them loose their senses. Such is the power of a woman.

“The way of a man with a virgin”, was one of the four amazing things that Agur a philosopher in the bible could not understand. That’s in Proverbs 30:1. In short what its saying is that a man who encounters a woman gets very crafty. In the presence of a lady a man’s intelligence increases ten times. He gets many ideas. He not only thinks of what he can do to her but also thinks of what she can do to him, what he can do with her, as well as what he can have her do. Of all these thoughts only 30% are honourable and respectable desires. Ladies be wary of the men who cross your path, not everything is as it seems.

Have you finished?

I have seen the true face of human beings. I used to believe there was purity in women and that men could be honourable. I used to think people were honest and that dignity and self respect mattered for something. I guess I was the foolish one, I was naive I will admit.

What is this I see? A simple text message or phone call can have a girl come over to a stranger’s home for a little sex no strings attached just like that. Men are unfaithful to their wives and they are proud of it. ‘That’s how we men are’ they say. Sex parties are the order of the day with multitudes expressing interest to attend. Pictures of naked people in varied sexual acts are applauded and enjoyed with no shame. The men are bad and their women are no better. Both men and women are eager to sell their bodies for some pocket money, they charge large sums without shame. It matters not to them that the men are married, they care not about the relationship a woman has with another man, ‘if it is stolen the sweeter it is’ they say.

KuMidima eya tilipo

My grandfather speaks of a time when the people in his village connived and plotted against him and had his farm taken away from him. Being a man who loved to farm, he believed that he who farms will not suffer much in this expensive world, this occurrence troubled him much that night. He failed to sleep. In his insomnia and tormented state of his soul he saw a vision.

What my grandpa saw was this: He saw his father come to him, a man who had died when he was about 5 or so. His father said “Come with me I want to give you a farm.” My grandpa obeyed and followed. They walked a great distance, the man took him to a piece of land and showed him its boundaries. One of its boundaries was a river .Then the man took him some place else. They came to a large tree outside a big house with white walls. The man then asked ‘do you see that house over there?’ My grandpa answered in the affirmative and his father then said ‘that will be your house, you will live in it’. The man who had come to my grandfather then left and my grandpa awoke from his vision.

Should I marry that One?

I once dated a girl that was close to perfect. She was honest and never pretended to be more than she was. She didn’t play mind games, she was patient and was a peacemaker. She loved talking to me 24/7. She cared about my family and had a good relationship with them. She loved me more than I had ever thought was possible in this world and even more than I can ever hope to be loved in this lifetime. She had dignity and was Godly. Our hearts synched like it was designed by the hand of God for us to fit together. She was the model wife, you could trust her to make you a happy husband and make your house a home, presentable and welcoming to you and all others.

The Circumcision of Men

I recently gave a Doctor the honour of circumcising me. I call it an honour cause I don’t usually make it a habit to undress and show off my winky to people let alone have them probe and dissect parts of it. I will not divulge the reasons for why I decided to go through such an experience, lets just say it was an experience I would not want to relive at any time in my life.

What stood out for me during the whole procedure was that the dear Doctor stitched and stitched and stitched. There were a number of times I thought he was through, but then he would look here and there and get another suture and restart stitching at some area he had missed. It got to a point where I started thinking to myself, “I am tired I want to go home”. He was very thorough I will give him that.

An Emotional being

When you read the book of Jeremiah in the Holy Bible you will notice something interesting. Humanity sometimes manages to frustrate God. Jeremiah was a prophet among the people of Israel and the Lord Jehovah gave him messages for the Israelites. The first set of messages he was charged with delivering were words of condemnation and requests for repentance from God to the Israelites who had sinned against their God.

At some point Jeremiah says “This is what the Lord says:’ What fault did your fathers find in me that they strayed so far from me?’ Later on as the story progresses God says to Jeremiah, “They have turned their backs to me and not their faces; yet when they are in trouble they say ‘come save us!’.Then again God asks a question, “Have I been a desert to Israel or a land of great darkness?”