Men and Women Relationships

The relationship between men and women is a funny thing. It can only be described as a cycle that will see no end and will always lead to disaster should men and women continue to relate to each other the way they do now.

The problem starts when you consider the fact that no man will accept a woman 100% as she is and vice versa. This is mostly because when a man and a woman meet for the first time they each already have preconceived ideas of the kind of man or woman they want to date. So knowing that they like this about their partner but not that they expect the other person to also think like they do, to like other parts of them but not others.

A Sex Idol

The power of sex is undeniable all over the world. It will make a preacher, the holiest of men, lay down his faith and religious beliefs just so he too can have some. It will make a very faithful husband forget  his marriage vows to his wife and lay down with a prostitute. It opens up wallets causing people to buy houses and cars and spend lots of money on women and men so they can have something that was otherwise made to be free of charge.

Even I cant shake its power over me and I consider myself a reasonably holy man and even better a servant of God .I am enticed by sex and have fallen short , my feet are quick to run to it yet I read my bible and promise to obey the lord my God almost every day. Yes it is quite a marvelous thing to share that experience with a living breathing human being.

Dear Mahope

Dear Mahope,

There is a picture of you on Facebook that I really really like. In that picture I see a girl with not only a gorgeous smile but also a pure heart that is free from evil. I look at that picture and wish for many many things:

You should not have married me!

Men, your women have a case. They have accusations against you that you must answer. What will you answer these women my fellow men? For when I heard what the women said even I could not answer for you! This you must answer for yourself.

This then is what the women are saying: “Out of love did we marry you, for better or worse did we promise to be with you. Out of our love for you we have accepted you the way you are. We have tried to be good wives and have not criticized or been nuisances for nothing. We give up our wishes, time and plans to cook, clean and make your house a home.”

If all Women listened

By himself a man is relatively okay. In the presence of a woman, however, a man is an extremely evil being. The male vendors who started undressing women in Lilongwe were doing quite fine that day until one unfortunate woman crossed their paths and made them loose their senses. Such is the power of a woman.

“The way of a man with a virgin”, was one of the four amazing things that Agur a philosopher in the bible could not understand. That’s in Proverbs 30:1. In short what its saying is that a man who encounters a woman gets very crafty. In the presence of a lady a man’s intelligence increases ten times. He gets many ideas. He not only thinks of what he can do to her but also thinks of what she can do to him, what he can do with her, as well as what he can have her do. Of all these thoughts only 30% are honourable and respectable desires. Ladies be wary of the men who cross your path, not everything is as it seems.

Have you finished?

I have seen the true face of human beings. I used to believe there was purity in women and that men could be honourable. I used to think people were honest and that dignity and self respect mattered for something. I guess I was the foolish one, I was naive I will admit.

What is this I see? A simple text message or phone call can have a girl come over to a stranger’s home for a little sex no strings attached just like that. Men are unfaithful to their wives and they are proud of it. ‘That’s how we men are’ they say. Sex parties are the order of the day with multitudes expressing interest to attend. Pictures of naked people in varied sexual acts are applauded and enjoyed with no shame. The men are bad and their women are no better. Both men and women are eager to sell their bodies for some pocket money, they charge large sums without shame. It matters not to them that the men are married, they care not about the relationship a woman has with another man, ‘if it is stolen the sweeter it is’ they say.

KuMidima eya tilipo

My grandfather speaks of a time when the people in his village connived and plotted against him and had his farm taken away from him. Being a man who loved to farm, he believed that he who farms will not suffer much in this expensive world, this occurrence troubled him much that night. He failed to sleep. In his insomnia and tormented state of his soul he saw a vision.

What my grandpa saw was this: He saw his father come to him, a man who had died when he was about 5 or so. His father said “Come with me I want to give you a farm.” My grandpa obeyed and followed. They walked a great distance, the man took him to a piece of land and showed him its boundaries. One of its boundaries was a river .Then the man took him some place else. They came to a large tree outside a big house with white walls. The man then asked ‘do you see that house over there?’ My grandpa answered in the affirmative and his father then said ‘that will be your house, you will live in it’. The man who had come to my grandfather then left and my grandpa awoke from his vision.