How you know she truly loves you

I am now just boyfriend material. A year from now I will be 25 and at that point I will become marriage material for I will then be considered eligible to marry by women from that age onwards and below. The next five years of my life (from 25 to 30) should then be very interesting.

They will be interesting in that I will have a wider range of women to choose from. I will have the usual desperate women trying to get me to marry them, plus teenagers, women in their early 20’s and even in their 30’s. I can pick the finest of women in beauty and fashion, or I can pick the worst of whores just for kicks, my choice entirely.

The Eternal Bachelor

Marriage is no bed of roses. Your hopes are crushed, your dreams sacrificed, freedoms limited, way of life changed. You are constantly facing one problem after another, if it’s not your partner having mood swings it’s your kids crying all night and keeping you awake.

Then you have to factor in that the person you marry changes over time. They do not stay the same person you were attracted to, they change for better or worse emotionally and physically as your circumstances and lifestyle changes. Such changes do little to help the married couple.

When Women Marry

20% of women get married because of circumstance.30% of them will marry because they want to. The remaining 50% however get married in-order to escape some difficult emotional, psychological or financial situation that they are in.

The 20% that marry because of circumstance are those women who find themselves in marriage because of pregnancy or some such happenstance. For these there isn’t much to do but to make their situation the best it can be. It just happened after all, there is nothing else that can be done to reverse it without creating even more damage to their lives. Some live out their marriages happily and some don’t, it’s just the way it is and its best to accept it.

Men and Women Relationships

The relationship between men and women is a funny thing. It can only be described as a cycle that will see no end and will always lead to disaster should men and women continue to relate to each other the way they do now.

The problem starts when you consider the fact that no man will accept a woman 100% as she is and vice versa. This is mostly because when a man and a woman meet for the first time they each already have preconceived ideas of the kind of man or woman they want to date. So knowing that they like this about their partner but not that they expect the other person to also think like they do, to like other parts of them but not others.

A Sex Idol

The power of sex is undeniable all over the world. It will make a preacher, the holiest of men, lay down his faith and religious beliefs just so he too can have some. It will make a very faithful husband forget  his marriage vows to his wife and lay down with a prostitute. It opens up wallets causing people to buy houses and cars and spend lots of money on women and men so they can have something that was otherwise made to be free of charge.

Even I cant shake its power over me and I consider myself a reasonably holy man and even better a servant of God .I am enticed by sex and have fallen short , my feet are quick to run to it yet I read my bible and promise to obey the lord my God almost every day. Yes it is quite a marvelous thing to share that experience with a living breathing human being.

Dear Mahope

Dear Mahope,

There is a picture of you on Facebook that I really really like. In that picture I see a girl with not only a gorgeous smile but also a pure heart that is free from evil. I look at that picture and wish for many many things:

You should not have married me!

Men, your women have a case. They have accusations against you that you must answer. What will you answer these women my fellow men? For when I heard what the women said even I could not answer for you! This you must answer for yourself.

This then is what the women are saying: “Out of love did we marry you, for better or worse did we promise to be with you. Out of our love for you we have accepted you the way you are. We have tried to be good wives and have not criticized or been nuisances for nothing. We give up our wishes, time and plans to cook, clean and make your house a home.”